Dear readers, having a chronic illness doesn’t mean we can’t spice up our relationships with some mystery now and then.
Even though my husband offers me on a regular basis love, compassion, and most of all security, sometimes I like to run away from that same security.
I’m an incurable romantic spirit.
I absolutely love to read romance novels and one of the things the male protagonist always has is the “mystery” factor. I’m not gonna get a thrill if my protagonist is reading the newspaper in the kitchen counter.
The thing is, sometimes I ask myself “Am I entitled to have that mystery in my life even if I have MG?”.
Well, I’ve come to terms over the years with this interrogative and have come to the conclusion that not only me, but all of us deserve to have everything that a relationship has to offer.
On my own, it’s hard to come up with great ideas so I often get inspired by this amazing relation therapist Esther Perel, who by the way is a Ted Speaker and after reading and listening to her I come up with an idea or two.
Now here comes the best part, as a person who has MG I have to be extra creative. Now this can go in two different directions. One, we come up with new ideas or the other way around,we come up with no ideas.
You see my dear friends, it’s not bad at all to want more than we have sometimes.
Sex for MG patients, is a bit like every other thing in our lives. We have to wait sometimes till the good days come around. That can add to the surprise factor, because in the moment you least expect it, Wham, you get to have one of those days.
If I’m having an extra extra good day, we go out for a dinner date, if not we stay at home cuddling and just talking about things only related to US. We leave everybody and everything out of the equation even if its just for a little bit.
When I want to wear a nice piece of lingerie or something nice for a dinner date online shopping works fine for me. My secret for perfect fitting is that I shop at the same stores I used to go to and I try to buy the same lines of clothing or lingerie so I know how the sizes run.
Believe me, it’s all worthwhile the effort when my husband gives me the “delightfully surprised look” and words fail to express how great I feel about that.
So you see, my dear friends we all need security, but we also can’t leave out some element of surprise. Each one of us gets to chose what that element will be. Don’t miss out on anything just because we live with a chronic illness.
Please, don’t forget to find meaning and purpose in each day, and to reach out to others creating bonds of sister and brotherhoods.
See you on my path to wellness.