Dear readers, as I pushed through the doors leading to the chapel at Union Theological Seminary to get some ice cream after my daughter’s graduation and I saw for the very first time a flight of stairs that could have been as high as Mount Everest, the words that came through my mouth were, “Jesus Christ”.
You know life is like that sometimes, you just don’t expect situations that startle and alter your course and yet there they are. Mostly we go on to voice just any words that comes to mind and face two alternatives, or either we back away or we tackle them full throttle.
Well I decided to tackle Mount Everest full throttle. So off I went, step by step using the side bar as my assistant, I was almost half through when one of my daughter’s friends, Shawn, came to my rescue. He offered me his hand and I gracefully took it and we went on, he gently said, “ice cream awaits”.
No explanations were asked or given as to why I couldn’t manage a three short flight of stairs. When we reached our destination a thank you and hug were given and exchanged and we made the line together to get our much desired ice cream cone.
Having this disability has taught me many valuable life lessons, specially that I can’t back away from events in my life that may be seen as problems. It’s easy and cowardice to do nothing at all to conquer a barrier.
In the minute I began my climb I took control of my life, yet I did need help, but that’s fine. It’s all part of living with MG, I usually am going to need help. The thing is that I accept that help gracefully and with gratitude. Sometimes that help comes from a total stranger, a friend or a family member and each and every time it does, I’m just grateful. I’ve learned not to resent that helping hand, but to embrace it.
I utilize this same approach for the big, little and all in between situations that suffice in my life.
I’ve come to terms with the phrase, “I used to do”, and have replaced it with, “I do with the help of”. The most important for me now a days is feeling I have control of my life and living the best I can utilizing the resources I have at hand. Sometimes it means letting go and relinquishing the past. It’s best to focus on the now and let the tomorrow take care of itself.
We are still in control of who we are and how we choose to live our lives.
See you around the corner and remember to be kind to yourself and to those who surround you every day.